There are so many things that I don’t understand. I don’t understand why people believe that cold water boils faster than hot water. I don’t understand why people have a cell phone and a land line. And I really don’t understand why everyone gets so friggin uptight and “hush hush” about sex.
In my opinion, there are definitely times when you should keep sex private – times when it’s more than just a meeting of bodies and is something that is almost spiritual. Times when the joining of two bodies is a way of reassuring each other of your love.
More often than not, though, it’s JUST SEX.
I think that people are so afraid to talk about their sexual experiences because they’re afraid that they’ll be condemned for what they like. I know people who enjoy a variety of different types of sexual experiences, for instance:
People who are into BDSM (Bondage)
People who enjoy anal sex
People who enjoy having sex with members of their own sex (even though they claim to be straight)
People who are dominants
People who are submissives
People who are switches
I know people who like just tons of stuff, and guess what? I don’t care what they’re into. Yeah, I’ll sit there like many and wonder “how can that feel good? That wouldn’t feel good to me”, and then I’d try it and think “huh – okay – now I get why someone would be turned on by that”, or “nope, that didn’t do it for me”.
The point is this: why are we so uptight about sex? Why is it something that has to stay behind closed doors so often? Now I’m not suggesting you run up and down the street covered in lime jello screaming that you fantasize about having 2 men using your body like you were a $2 whore (although if you chose to do that it would be highly entertaining), I’m just saying that it should be okay for friends to talk about their sexual experiences with one another without having to feel all weird and strange.
I have some friends that I can talk to sex about, but most of those friends don’t live anywhere near me, and the one or two that do I haven’t talked to in ages (and totally need to get back in touch with – if you’re still reading this site, gimme a ring sometime!)
I think we need to adopt a new, healthier attitude about sex.
Sex is good, people, sex is good. And in today’s shitty economic situation, we need to talk about all of the good things that we can!